No Room for Phonies

Books Worth Reading: Part 2 - Safe People: How To Find Relationships That Are Good For You by Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry Cloud

Do you have a safety deficit?  Why do you chose unsafe relationships?  What are some "false solutions" to the safe people issue?  Why do you isolate yourself?  What do safe people do?  What do relationships and connection provide us with? How do you find restorative relationships and what do you need to do to have one?  Should you repair or replace the relationship?  

Books Worth Reading: Part 1 - Safe People: How To Find Relationships That Are Good For You by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

How can I learn to pick better friends?  What is an unsafe person?  
Personal Traits of Unsafe People  - Interpersonal Traits of Unsafe People 
How do we lose our safety?   How does the past affect our relationships?  
What do we need to avoid in order to stay safe?  

Part 2: Books Worth Reading: Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward, Ph.D.

The Inner World of the Blackmailer
It Takes Two
A Special Word on Women and Self-Doubt
Emotional Blackmail and Integrity 
We always have a choice - we can avoid the FOG
What is the strategy?  How do you change the power balance?  
Cut through the FOG!

Part 1: Books Worth Reading: Emotional Blackmail: When The People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward, Ph.D.

Why is it that some people are able to emotionally overpower us, leaving us feeling defeated?  
What is emotional blackmail?  
What is the FOG?  
How do you diagnose emotional blackmail?  
The four faces of blackmail.  
What strategies to blackmailers use?  

TAKE TIME FOR REFLECTION

Books that Encourage Journaling and Reflection: 
365 Days of Personal Growth:  A Daily Journal for Productivity and Development by Everard Maclaurin50 Things to Realize Before it is Too Late by Manoj Chenthamarkshan
500 Journal Prompts: For Mental Health, Creativity, and Personal Exploration by Robert Duff
55 Questions to Ask Yourself Across 8 Dimensions for a New You by Manoj Chenthmarkshan
Good Enough:  40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection by Kate Bowler, Jessica Richie
The Wisdom of Sundays:  Life-Changing Insights from Super Soul Conversations by Oprah Winfrey 

TEN TIPS FOR BACK TO SCHOOL

What to buy?  What to ask?  How to stay involved?  What to look for?  How to support your child?  

Lots of episodes in this podcast about education...
Just search "education" or "school" on our website...
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Episodes 39-50, Episode 71 and 96 and MORE...

Books Worth Reading: The Anxious Generation: How The Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt

How can you "rethink" social media in your family? 
How important is play for children? 
How can you move from a focus on the virtual world to a focus on the real world? 
What are some "ages and stages" to help kids up the ladder to adulthood?  
What about schools, parents and governments?  
What is the cost of an asynchronous life?  

Books Worth Reading: Tools to Regulate Your Nervous System: 9 Somatic, Cognitive and Lifestyle Techniques to Create Calm, Relieve Stress and Reduce Anxiety by Learnwell Books

The nervous system controls life.  How do you harness your power to manage your stress response?  What is the window of tolerance and how does this help us manage trauma?  What do you do when you feel dysregulated?  

Meditation
Mindfulness
What is the solution to every situation? 
Why exercise?  
Why worry about gut health?  
What about sleep?  How do you evaluate your sleep?  
What about your network?  Relationships?   Work?  Communication?  
How do you live your best life and how does regulating your nervous system help?  

Books Worth Reading: Vagus Nerve Reset: Train You Body to Heal Stress, Trauma, and Anxiety by Anna Ferguson

Anna is a qualified counselor, author, coach and integrative nervous system therapist.  She passionately supports individuals to come home to themselves through harnessing the healing power of their unique physiology, body and nervous system.  

annatheanxietycoach.com

What is the vagus nerve and what does it do?  
How can I improve my vagal tone?  
How do you activate your ventral vagal system?  
What about trauma?  
How do you reclaim your body?  
What about self-trust?  
What about body awareness?  
How do you reconnect to your body?  

Books Worth Reading: NOT NICE: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent and Feeling Guilty...Start Speaking Up, Saying No and Unapologetically Being Yourself by Aziz Gazipura

Relationship Truths - How to Speak Up For Yourself and why you don't (FEAR) - What is serving? - 7 Steps to Handle Any Situation - How to Disagree - Selfishness and Healthy Self-Interest - What is your relationship with NO? - Increase your discomfort tolerance - Choose your own rules - Naturalize Guilt - Take An Apology Fast - Follow the 30 Steps to a New You.