No Room for Phonies

Books Worth Reading: NOT NICE: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent and Feeling Guilty...Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly and Unapologetically Being Yourself by Aziz Gazipura

What is the difference between NICE and NOT NICE?
What does it mean to be an approval seeker? 
How do you show up as a POWERFUL version of yourself?
What shadows do you need to embrace? 
What are the TOP TEN reasons why people don't speak up?  

Books Worth Reading: Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselve,s and Our Society Thrive

What is the RULER?
How do we support emotional intelligence and growth at home, school and work? 
How do we start an emotional revolution?  

Mood Meter Chart:  :  https://bit.ly/mmchart4u

Books Worth Reading: Making Judgments Without Being Judgmental: Nurturing a Clear Mind and a Generous Heart by Terry D. Cooper

We dull our experiences and reduce our adventures in life by trying to fit everything into neat little categories.  What does it mean to be judgmental?  What is the difference between making judgments and being judgmental?  
Critical Thinking vs. Thinking Critically
Reflective and Open-minded vs. Sound Bits and Cliches
Insecure Arrogance vs. Confident Humility 
Grandiosity, Shame and Narcissim
Responding with Judgments vs. Reacting with Judgmentalism 
Guilt vs. Shame 
How do we alleviate insecurity?
Authoritative Judgments vs. Authoritarian Judgmentalism 
Acceptance is the birthplace of compassion and gratitude.  

Books Worth Reading: Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before by Dr. Julie Smith

Maximize your mental health....
Dr. Julie Smith gives tips and strategies for several challenges we face...

....on dark places -  on motivation - on emotional pain - on grief - on self-doubt - on fear - on stress - on a meaningful life

Travel Blog: Vancouver Island

Join us in pictures as we show you the highlights of Victoria and Sidney-By-The-Sea

Joe Wiebe     thirstywriter.com      Beer Blogger for BC

Books Worth Reading: Grit - The Power of Passion Perseverance by Angela Duckworth

Your potential is one thing - what we do with it is quite another. 

Challenge yourself everyday.  

Talent is no guarantee of grit.  

Talent, effort, skill and achievement fit together.  

Enthusiasm is common.  Endurance is rare. 

Improvise - Adapt - Overcome

The Stages of Grit
The Maturity Principle 
Deliberate Practice
Flow
Hope and a Growth Mindset
Hard thing Rule
Shared Norms
Grow grit from the inside out. 

Books Worth Reading: Why Won't You Apologize: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner

The Many Faces of "I'm Sorry" - Ways to Ruin an Apology - More Wimpy, Overblown and Downright Relationship-Busting Apologies - Apologizing Under Fire (How to Handle Big-Time Criticism) - How to Decode a Faux Apology - The Secret Life of the Non Apologizer - Defensiveness - How and Whether to Accept the Olive Branch - Who is at Fault? (When Reconciliation Grinds to A Halt) - Have you ever witnessed an unforgettable or stunning apology? - You Need to Forgive and other Lies that Hurt You - How to Find Peace - The Two Most Powerful Words in the English Language 

Books Worth Reading: Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When The Stakes Are High by Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, Emily Gregory

What's a Crucial Conversation? 
Mastering Crucial Conversations
Choosing Your Topic - How to make sure you hold the right conversation
Start with the Heart - How to stay focused on what you really want
Master Your Stories - How to stay in dialogue when you're scared or hurt
Learn to Look - How to notice when safety is at risk
Make It Safe - How to make it safe to talk about just about anything
State My Path - How to speak persuasively, not abrasively
Explore Others' Paths - How to listen when other blow up or clam up
Retake Your Pen - How to be resilient when hearing tough feedback
Move to Action -  How to turn crucial conversations into action and results
Finish Clearly - Determine who does what by when

The Love Prescription: 7 Day to More Intimacy, Connection and Joy

Books Worth Reading....a practical relationship boost is available in this little, easily read book - 7 Days of tips and strategies and stories that will revitalize your relationship with your partner - or set you up for a successful future relationship.  

Books Worth Reading: The Science of Stuck by Britt Frank

Do you need some inertia to "get going"?  What part of your life lives in the "shadows"?  Do you struggle with relationships and boundaries?  Are you struggling with addiction?  This book is filled with stories, examples and practical strategies as well as new ways of looking at anxiety and emotions.